Trauma comes in all shapes and sizes. What is one person’s everyday is another person’s trauma. Many are so conditioned to except what isn’t respectful or full of love.
Grief can be in the form of losing a loved one, or it can be in the thought of losing something you didn’t have. We often set ourselves up for failure as the world holds images in our face. Happy births, or mixed families getting along. Or parents who are emotionally there for them when they need it.
When both of my maternal and paternal grandmothers passed, it was a mix of emotions. For no one likes to see someone in pain. So often the first reaction is relief. Then comes guilt for feeling that. Often as no-one quite knows how to cope.
As empathic people we can absorb emotions from others. So my own experience was full of heightened emotions. Absorbed from my parents and aunties and uncles. Also as an empath I wasn’t used to so much grief. Confused. Unappreciated. Worry. A whirlwind of emotional trauma.
From my own experience of watching two of my grandparents pass over as well as being very close to the other two, my ancestral DNA code was turned on. Grief was a code for how I would react. Grief as a hidden emotion, not shown. Don’t talk about it, or show any form of how you are coping.
Loss can do crazy things to our mind. When you lose someone it has an even bigger impact on us. Health is a key component. If grief and loss isn’t healed our health can suffer. What I have now come to realise is my own inability to let myself fully grieve over a death. For no one was a model. Not one of my parents, or someone close. So for me I did feel sad and I did cry, but I didn’t actively feel the emotion of grief. Trapped emotions are emotions not fully actualised. They are still trapped within us.
If you have lost someone or need assistance healing your emotional pains, I’d be honoured to assist. Read about PSYCH-K Sessions here.
Grief isn’t something you want to hang onto. Healing is possible while still honouring that person and all the good memories.
